The love language of gift giving is a universal concept.
Gift giving and gift receiving are common forms of love languages that are often misunderstood.
While many can feel an effect of happiness from gifting to one another, the idea that this is a type of love language causes some confusion.
Many people think someone who has this as their love language means they only care about wealth or objects.
Sure! Some people care more about materialistic things. But those people don’t truly have ‘gift giving and receiving’ as their actual love language.
As someone who has this as their love language, I can tell you that it goes deeper than what people think.
It’s the feeling of intimacy that’s created from the understanding the person gifting to us:
- Cares about us enough to even get us a gift in the first place.
- Thought about us and made a great effort to get us something they believe we would love.
Again, while it sounds as if this love language is more materialistic, that is not the case. It focuses on the thought and effort of the other person.
Think about the times you’ve given gifts to people you love.
You spent a great deal of time thinking about the other person to find the best gift.
Or you went about your day but saw something that reminded you of them. You got excited to share this with that person, so you ended making a spontaneous buy.
Now, think about the gifts you’ve received, and imagine that thought and effort from people you cherish. Doesn’t it make you feel loved to realize how much they care for you?
A Feeling of Closeness
To expand on the idea of thought and effort, I’ll go into the effect gift giving has on happiness.
When you find the perfect gift, you get this warm feeling of closeness from thinking about the person.
Even if they’re not with you right now, you feel the strength of your bonds and the intimacy of your relationship.
Thinking About Their Personality
You start to remember their likes and dislikes. Their weird habits. Obsessions over certain shows or foods.
Thinking about what makes that person them, gives you another sense of appreciation.
If you’re not with them right now, you begin to appreciate the moments when you are.
And if you are currently hanging out with that person, then that makes my point. You’re enjoying their company because you appreciate their personality.
Remembering What You Love About Them
What you love about that person influence your affection for them.
You can love their humor and decide to get a gift that will have you sharing some laughs.
This person may also inspire you, so you could give them a gift that will show your support for them.
By remembering what you like most about someone, you fill yourself with a type of happiness that derives from the feeling of love.
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The Joy of Memories
The next form of happiness comes from memories of that person.
A great way to come up with a gift idea is by reminiscing about your shared memories with that person.
This goes hand in hand with the feeling of closeness I talked about earlier.
When you think about these memories, you’re able to relive a moment in your life.
You’ll feel grateful it happened, hopeful that you’ll make more similar moments, or it’ll give you a good laugh!
Remembering Shared Memories
You get this nostalgic feeling when you remember all the fun activities you did together.
It’s interesting to realize how different you both were back then. But it’s also amazing when you notice how much you’ve grown together.
Looking back allows you to understand the strength of your bond.
You’ll remember all the times they were there for you when you needed a shoulder to cry on.
You can recollect the ways they’ve supported you when you were struggling. And you’ll relive that feeling of accomplishment of when they were cheering you on for reaching a goal.
You might get them a gift that symbolizes one of your favorite memories with them.
An example of mine is when I gave one of my close friends an outfit based on the music artist we saw together at a concert.
Creating New Memories
On the topic of concerts, I’ve also bought extra tickets to give some of my close friends. I did this, so we can go make more memories together.
The idea of planning a trip or going to an event together fills you with excitement. This allows you to look forward to creating new and fun memories.
This excitement is another form of happiness you receive when preparing this gift.
Wanting to share another moment with someone you care about shows how gift giving can be your love language.
Planning your activities are as thrilling as when you’re actually doing the activity. Think about all the cute outfits you plan to wear!
The Art of Creating
In my last two reasons, I explained why giving gifts have a positive effect on your happiness. This focused more on the feeling you get when you’re enjoying the company of a loved one.
Now, I want to focus your attention on another form of happiness! You can find peace by simply preparing the gift.
Creating can give you a way to express yourself and elevate your mood as you enjoy the activity at hand.
While the planning itself can be a form of creating, you can also give DIY gifts to people you care about.
You can write a song or a story, cook a meal, paint a picture…whatever you desire! You’ll get a sense of accomplishment when you get to see the finished product you’ve created.
Be resourceful and get artistic with it. It doesn’t have to be a masterpiece, but it’s a way you can convey your feelings of appreciation for that person.
The last creative gift I’ve given gave me a lot of joy. I thought about their personalities and memories I’ve shared. With this, I was able to craft the following paintings.
The paintings are of my friends’ dogs! I’ve dressed them up in outfits based on my friends’ personalities and memories that I truly value. Look at how cute their babies look next to the portrait I painted!
Feeding Off Their Energy
The last part of this happiness journey towards providing a gift full of love is when they receive the gift.
Seeing their reactions – the smiles and the laughter – naturally has us take in and reflect the same type of energy. Their happiness makes us happy.
Sending love fills us with warmth similar to when we feel loved. This goes into the love language of receiving gifts.
How Receiving Gifts Can Be a Love Language
While you can probably now understand the love language of gift giving, how does the happiness effect of receiving reach the same level?
In the beginning, I told you to remember how you felt giving a gift and to think about when you’ve received a gift.
Now that I’ve broken down each effect of happiness when it comes to gift giving, receiving is all those elements combined into one.
Once you receive that gift, you’re met with memories you’ve shared in a way that portrays the giver’s personality.
The idea that this person thought deeply of us causes us to feel joy.
Thinking how that person may have enjoyed the journey of preparing that gift, we’re able to feed off that same energy.
In a sense, we’re just bouncing off love and happiness from one another when we engage in the act of giving and receiving gifts.
I hope you’re able to get a better understanding of this type of love language. This love language of gift giving is far from materialistic as it focuses on the sentimental value of love and friendship! I hope you keep these ideas in mind when you prepare your next gift for a loved one.
Sometimes trying to prepare a gift can feel a bit stressful. If you make a type of ritual or make it an experience, you can enjoy your next journey of gift giving.
The best gifts we receive are typically those that we feel a deeper connection to. I’d love to see what gift you’ve received that continues to make you happy today.
Please comment below what it is and why it made you feel this way! (Let yourself relive the moment by explaining in the comment section ^_^ )